This post was updated in September 2025.
When it comes to attending a funeral, one of the most commonly asked questions that
comes up is: what should I wear?
Whilst black has always been the traditional colour of choice for funerals in the UK, nowadays the etiquette is generally more flexible and some funerals may embrace more colour and freedom of expression than others.
This can create confusion about what is ‘appropriate’ to wear to a funeral and leave you with more questions than answers.
In this blog, we aim to tackle some questions that arise when attending a funeral in the UK.
Why is black worn at funerals in the UK?
Wearing black to funerals has been documented as far back as Roman times, and during the Middle Ages, wearing black was a sign of respect (and wealth) when in mourning. The black formal clothing we recognise today as traditional funeral attire became mainstream in the 1800s, and many historians cite Queen Victoria wearing black following the death of Prince Albert as popularising the tradition of wearing smart black clothing to funerals.
Nowadays, wearing black (or dark colours) is seen as a mark of respect and a demonstration of the solemnity of the occasion, and is still the most popular choice for funeral clothing.
What other colours are acceptable to wear to a funeral?
Whilst black is still the most popular colour choice for UK funerals, darker or more muted colours are usually also welcomed. This could include navy, greys and browns, but may also include deeper shades of green, purple or burgundy. It’s best to avoid lighter or brighter colours, bold patterns or styles, unless specifically requested by the family.
Some families request a ‘no black’ dress code. This tends to be for funerals that focus on celebrating a person’s life or if the deceased requested it prior to their death. If the dress code requests ‘no black’, you may wish to check in advance whether you should opt for a darker colour palette, or whether lighter and brighter colours will be welcomed.
Do different types of funerals and faiths have different dress codes?
Yes. Whilst Western societies have always adopted a dark colour palette, different cultures have different traditions when it comes to funerals.
- Wearing black or darker colours is traditional in Christian and Jewish funerals. At a Jewish funeral, men will also wear a kippah.
- Muslim funerals don’t tend to have a specific colour palette, but simple, plain and modest clothing is expected.
- In Hindu, Sikh and Buddhist funerals, white and light-coloured modest clothing is the traditional choice.
As the move to arrange a funeral that is just as much a ‘celebration of life’ as it is an opportunity to say goodbye, the rules of what you can and can’t wear to a funeral are becoming more flexible. Some funerals will avoid traditions and take a more relaxed approach. In this instance it will most likely be made clear on the funeral notice. If in doubt, do some research beforehand to find out what might be expected of you, and if it’s appropriate, you could ask the family or next of kin to the deceased what you should wear.
What style of clothing is most suitable to wear to a funeral?
Attending a funeral typically has two main objectives – to say goodbye to the deceased, and offer your support to the bereaved family.
Because of this, wearing smart clothing that feels respectful is important.
Men should typically wear a suit, long-sleeved shirt, smart shoes and a tie. For women, a knee-length dress, skirt or trouser suit is most suitable, worn with a shirt or blouse and smart flat or heeled shoes.
Keep jewellery and accessories to a minimum. Hats aren’t usually expected but are often welcomed.
Is there anything I should avoid wearing to a funeral?
Avoid wearing any casual clothing that sets the wrong tone, such as denim, t-shirts, baseball caps, beanies or trainers. Also avoid wearing anything that shows off a lot of skin, such as shorts, miniskirts, vests or low tops.
The main thing to keep in mind is showing a sense of respect to the deceased and their loved ones through the clothes you wear.
What else should I consider?
Comfort is key. Funerals are emotional occasions and the day of the funeral can be long, so make sure you’re wearing clothes you feel comfortable in. There is no need to wear high heels if you don’t feel comfortable in them; a pair of smart flat shoes can work just as well.
It’s also important to consider how warm or cold you’ll be. Winter funerals can be very cold, particularly if there is a graveside burial, so it’s important to wear enough clothing to keep you warm throughout the day. And likewise, in the summer months, try to wear lighter fabrics to avoid overheating – a linen suit may work well for men, and there may be no need for a tie (check in with the family first, or bring one just in case).
And finally…
Be yourself. There is no need to change your entire style to attend a funeral. Whilst you’ll want to be respectful in your clothing, feeling like yourself is just as important. Take a look at what you already have in your wardrobe – you’ll most likely find something that sets the right tone without needing to invest in anything new.
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